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My (now ex) gym crush, Fred (28M), asked me out about a week ago. We followed each other on Instagram and I discovered that he had a son. I (28F) was anxious about dating a dad, but he seemed nice in our texts so I decided to go on the first date and know more about it and him in person.

I didn’t like him, at all. I’ll tell you why with just a few examples:

• He arrived 15 minutes late to our date and, laughing, admitted that ten minutes before our scheduled meeting time, he was still in bed. He blamed his roommate for it.
• He would ignore what I said and pivot the conversation back to what he was saying / himself.
• He hasn’t seen his 11-year-old son in five months. The boy lives in another city with his mother and Fred doesn’t speak to her at all. He admitted he only talks to his son “every now and then.” Later, I asked if he’d like more children someday (I want children myself). He said that he doesn’t really like anything related to children…
• He claimed his previous gyms always had “bad vibes” because some would stare at him while he trained. Instead of traditional exercises, he does more explosive ones. I said: “people sometimes stare because they admire you”, and he went, “nah!”
• I asked about whether he got along with the people in his functional training class. He said yes, added that it’s mostly women, and then went on a rant about how other guys avoid the class because training with women makes them feel “less masculine” (nobody told him this; it’s his theory). He finished with, “I am better than them anyway, I don’t care.” What?
• I mentioned that I had been bullied when I was 12. He said, “But why? There had to be something about you that they didn't like." I asked what it even mattered anyway since kids bully others for random reasons.
• He bragged that he never needed to study English (the language) because he learned it all through music, and that gave him the best grades in his class. He then said he couldn’t understand why his university classmates struggled to read English texts because "it's basically the same stuff we study [kinesiology], just in English. It’s so obvious." As a language teacher myself, I pointed out that what is obvious for him might not be obvious for everyone. He ignored that and kept saying “but it’s obvious stuff!” and I went, “for YOU.” He seemed confused by my response.

There’s a lot more, but I’ll leave it there for the sake of brevity. By the end of the date, I was actively trying to hide my yawns. I haven’t seen him since the date because he went back to his hometown for vacation... I think he’s coming back this week. I have no idea how to tell him I don’t want to see him again. Could you help me with that? Also, what do you think about this guy? Am I being too picky? My father said he was probably “nervous.”